Woman sparks huge debate after explaining why she can't date a man who has a job

The evolving dating standards of both men and women can oftentimes be very confusing.

Attributes that can make you a valuable and sought-out partner to some will completely kill your chances with others. Ultimately, this is a pretty fundamental aspect of dating.

However, it can get perplexing when things that you’d expect everyone to appreciate are considered to be an absolute no-go for certain potential partners.

This much is the case for Trishonna Helm and Destine Patton of the Beyond The Chair podcast, who discussed one of their dating preferences with Jay Hill a couple of years ago. Have a listen:

While most would assume a woman would want their man to have a full-time job, Trishonna and Destine explained why this isn’t the case for them. Rather, both women would much prefer if their partner didn’t have a job at all.

“What if we want to go to Jamaica,” Trishonna asked, “and you can’t because you’ve gotta go to your [job]?”

This prompted immense confusion from Jay Hill and viewers of the clip as Destine followed up on Trishonna’s sentiments and elaborated further.

“For me personally, because I know when a lot of people say, 'Oh, I can't date a man with a job', a lot of people on the internet take offense, but for me, Destine, I cannot date a man with a job,” she concurred.

The reason for this for both ladies has to do with general spontaneity, which is hard to fit into the schedule of someone with a full-time job.

“I am very spontaneous,” Destine added, “I also need a man to understand where I'm at in the moment. As entrepreneurs, it's very up and down, and I just want somebody to understand the mental state.”

The woman wouldn't want to date a man who had a full-time job. (Getty Stock Image)

While it’s unclear whether the women meant they couldn’t date a man with a typical job schedule or if they truly meant any working man at all, their comments went viral, with confusion and criticism being launched at them for their peculiar worldview.

“How many rich dudes do they think there are in the world?” one commenter questioned.

“How many people do they think there are out there that don't need to have a job while being able to fly to Jamaica whenever they want?"

Another joked about meeting the women’s standards, saying: “I just quit all 5 of my jobs, living in my car & just started my own business (3 lemonade stands up already) and now I can finally say I’m good enough for these type of girls.”

Others were less critical of the duo, saying that their preferences shouldn’t be anybody else’s concern.

“That clip makes sense to me. She's not saying all women, she's sayin her. If he can't fit her lifestyle, it's on to the next."