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Marriage counselor reveals the one clear sign that means your relationship is over

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Updated 10:30 19 Apr 2024 GMT+1Published 15:32 18 Apr 2024 GMT+1

Marriage counselor reveals the one clear sign that means your relationship is over

The counselor took to Reddit to share their wisdom, which is making some people second-guess their relationships

Callum Jones

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A marriage counselor has revealed one clear sign that your relationship is not made to last.

There is no denying that relationships are a tricky business, and there is not necessarily a rule book for how to do it.

What works for one relationship may not work for another, so taking people's advice does not always work.

Nonetheless, there are people out there who are experts in the relationship field.

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So, if you are looking for a bit of advice, they are perhaps the people to listen to.

A marriage counselor has revealed a sign your relationship may be over. (Getty Stock Photo)
A marriage counselor has revealed a sign your relationship may be over. (Getty Stock Photo)

On a Reddit thread titled 'What screams 'we are not going to last long' for couples?', one Redditor shared the comment a counselor once shared with them.

They said: "I was at a party one time and there was a marriage counselor there that had been working for 20-something years in couples counselling. I asked her what the number one sign was that the couple wasn't going to make it. Without hesitating, she said, 'If one person shows contempt for the other's feelings, it's over!'."

Contempt is one that is talked about a lot when it comes to relationships, with experts subsequently offering their advice on it.

But what exactly does it mean in terms of a relationship.

Sex and relationship researcher Kristen Mark told The Knot: "Mocking your partner, speaking to them with condescension, or using sarcasm for cruelty are all examples of contempt."

A debate around the sign has taken place on Reddit. (Getty Stock Photo)
A debate around the sign has taken place on Reddit. (Getty Stock Photo)

Another Reddit user also got involved in the conversation as they added: "This is a really well-documented one. Contempt is a dead giveaway. The moment you start 'sneering' or using incredulous sarcasm, you should consider it to be a red alert. My wife and I are doing fine these days, but a few of our worst fights have contained contempt.

"Unfortunately because we'd heard this guidance before, we realised we were in very dangerous territory and needed to take a really hard look at the root causes of what was p***ing us off at each other. Anger can be a natural reaction, as long as it doesn't come with abuse. Contempt, however, is like black mould."

There are of course many other red flags, with a fellow Reddit user summing it up perfectly.

"When they post each other too much. I get the occasional picture together but when you full-on document every little thing it just comes across as wanting to prove your relationship to other people because you’re insecure," they added.

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