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Women reveal the major 'unattractive' trait men think is appealing but they actually hate

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Published 12:39 7 Jan 2025 GMT

Women reveal the major 'unattractive' trait men think is appealing but they actually hate

This particular type of 'energy' from men can be really off-putting, according to women

Ellie Kemp

Ellie Kemp

Women have revealed the one major trait men may think makes them more attractive, but really doesn't.

It might be a new year, but the last time I checked, the world of dating is the same old minefield...

From endlessly scrolling through the dating apps to navigating the complexities of a new relationship, it can all get a bit disheartening - regardless of gender.

Not to mention Valentine's Day is a mere few weeks away, reminding us singletons how truly, well, single we are...

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And while February approaching might inspire us to date more, it's import to not settle for the sake of it - after all, it's technically still cuffing season.

Dating is even more difficult if you're not being your true self (LuckyBusiness/Getty Images)
Dating is even more difficult if you're not being your true self (LuckyBusiness/Getty Images)

We're told we should be our true selves while dating in order to find a real match.

But it's understandable that some of us might adopt a slightly more animated persona to combat jangling nerves on the first few dates.

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But, as the woman of Reddit have revealed, there's a particular sort of personality trait some men might develop which is a total turn off.

Taking to the social media site, one person posed the question: "Women, what isn't nearly as attractive as lot of guys think it is?"

Some 1,200 people responded, but there was one answer that - ironically - dominated the responses.

Women have said men who exhibit this trait make them feel 'unsafe' (Getty Stock Image)
Women have said men who exhibit this trait make them feel 'unsafe' (Getty Stock Image)

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Topping the thread was 'alpha' energy, which is typically used to describe 'the most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group'.

Now, this doesn't just mean a confident man who can make conversation - oh, no.

Alpha males are known to take it to the extreme - think: ultra-dominant, toxic-masculinity - the type that controversial influencers like Andrew Tate teach men they need to be in order to attract women.

I'm sure the majority of people don't really believe these types of 'alpha' males really exist - but the majority of comments on the Reddit thread elude to their textbook characteristics.

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A second person explained: "Being persistent and showing dominant energy when we've already said we aren't interested even after we maybe were at first,' as a third reckoned: "Acting like an 'alpha' just makes me feel like I’m not safe alone in a room with you."

A fourth explained: "Acting macho. I want a man with emotional intelligence, not a man that punches a wall to show he cares."

Another woman agreed that being too dominant in conversation was a turn-off, adding: "It annoys me to my core when men don’t let other people, especially women, have the floor."

But she added that 'men who ask questions and really listen are super attractive,' explaining: "It shows they’re emotionally aware and engaging."

Featured Image Credit: Prostock-Studio/Vladimir Vladimirov/Getty Images

Topics: Reddit, Sex and Relationships, Social Media

Ellie Kemp
Ellie Kemp

Ellie joined UNILAD in 2024, specialising in SEO and trending content. She moved from Reach PLC where she worked as a senior journalist at the UK’s largest regional news title, the Manchester Evening News. She also covered TV and entertainment for national brands including the Mirror, Star and Express. In her spare time, Ellie enjoys watching true crime documentaries and curating the perfect Spotify playlist.

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