Topics: Reddit, Sex and Relationships, Social Media
Women have revealed the one major trait men may think makes them more attractive, but really doesn't.
It might be a new year, but the last time I checked, the world of dating is the same old minefield...
From endlessly scrolling through the dating apps to navigating the complexities of a new relationship, it can all get a bit disheartening - regardless of gender.
Not to mention Valentine's Day is a mere few weeks away, reminding us singletons how truly, well, single we are...
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And while February approaching might inspire us to date more, it's import to not settle for the sake of it - after all, it's technically still cuffing season.
We're told we should be our true selves while dating in order to find a real match.
But it's understandable that some of us might adopt a slightly more animated persona to combat jangling nerves on the first few dates.
But, as the woman of Reddit have revealed, there's a particular sort of personality trait some men might develop which is a total turn off.
Taking to the social media site, one person posed the question: "Women, what isn't nearly as attractive as lot of guys think it is?"
Some 1,200 people responded, but there was one answer that - ironically - dominated the responses.
Topping the thread was 'alpha' energy, which is typically used to describe 'the most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group'.
Now, this doesn't just mean a confident man who can make conversation - oh, no.
Alpha males are known to take it to the extreme - think: ultra-dominant, toxic-masculinity - the type that controversial influencers like Andrew Tate teach men they need to be in order to attract women.
I'm sure the majority of people don't really believe these types of 'alpha' males really exist - but the majority of comments on the Reddit thread elude to their textbook characteristics.
A second person explained: "Being persistent and showing dominant energy when we've already said we aren't interested even after we maybe were at first,' as a third reckoned: "Acting like an 'alpha' just makes me feel like I’m not safe alone in a room with you."
A fourth explained: "Acting macho. I want a man with emotional intelligence, not a man that punches a wall to show he cares."
Another woman agreed that being too dominant in conversation was a turn-off, adding: "It annoys me to my core when men don’t let other people, especially women, have the floor."
But she added that 'men who ask questions and really listen are super attractive,' explaining: "It shows they’re emotionally aware and engaging."
