While many people might think the rules of a first date are pretty obvious, there's apparently some questions you shouldn't be asking.
By that, we don't mean asking their date what bra size they are or how many people they've had sex with, these are seemingly harmless questions which could in fact work against you.
Dating coaches Blaine Anderson and Grace Lee have recently shared her advice to those looking for love.
You'd probably think politics was off the table to talk about, but Anderson says that if it's something you're particularly passionate about and you'd only date someone who votes the same as you then 'you’re probably better off bringing them up on a first date rather than waiting', she told CNBC.
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So, if politics is okay to ask about, what shouldn't we be saying?
Question one: What's your dating history?
According to Anderson, this line of questioning isn't very fun - which is what a first date should be all about.
"The only category of questions I’d advise singles to avoid outright on early dates is around dating history," she explained.
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"There’s no need to bring exes into your first dates. Stay present, and focus on the here and now."
Question two: Do you want to go on another date?
Many would find it a compliment that your date was keen to see you again, but Grace Lee, a New York City-based dating coach, says that you shouldn't try nail down the details of your next date while still enjoying the first. Instead, you should take the time to really decide if you want to see them again.
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She said: "Planning for the second date is a form of courtship, a form of testing that mutual interest. That’s why I like to leave the first date open. I like leaving that planning process intact. Now, one person has to take a little bit of a risk."
Also, if you ask someone to their face if they'd like to see you again, there's a good chance they'll feel pressured to say yes.
Question three: Drinks has been fun - should we get dinner now?
According to Lee, prolonging a date that's going well isn't always a good thing as it may create a false-sense of things going really well.
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Instead of having a seven-hour long date, you should break it down into follow-up dates instead.
"As good as it feels, even if you’re on the most amazing date I’d encourage people to stop after the second round of drinks," explained Lee.
"Leave wanting more. If the magic is there, it will lead to a second date."
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