Women reveal what they believe 'actually makes men good in bed' and it might surprise you

A survey has revealed what women really think is most important when it comes to whether or not a guy is actually 'good in bed'.

The average penis sizes around the globe may have just been released and got you in a fluster, but don't stress about it, because ultimately, what makes a man good in bed has nothing to do with that, according to a recent survey.

Elite Daily surveyed 100 women from the age of 19 to 50 about what actually makes a guy good in bed.

Participants were provided with a list of 15 actions that a man can do and to respond with either they're 'very important,' 'somewhat important', or 'not important' to whether or not the action results in them thinking the guy is 'good in bed'.

Women have weighed in on what really makes them consider a man as being good in bed (Getty Stock Images)

Confidence

A man being able to lead the way in the bedroom was important to 96 percent of women - but still listening and being receptive to their suggestions and what works for them too.

However, getting creative and trying new positions out was also important to participants, with 86 percent saying they didn't just want missionary and others mentioning switching up the rhythm of the session can be equally as important too.

So, sometimes the throw-against-the-wall sort of sex you see in films like 50 Shades of Grey, and other times more like scenes from Normal People, eh?

And the next one up isn't quite as it seems...

Participants rated confidence highly in terms of what makes men good in bed (Getty Stock Images)

Fitness

Now, this doesn't mean you have to have a six-pack of abs, bulging muscles, or anything like that, but more that you have stamina to give as good as you've got for a reasonable amount of time to make the experience enjoyable for you both.

And 90 percent of those surveyed agreed you need to bring a suitable amount of energy to the table. However, only 33 percent were fussed about how quickly a guy orgasms, the remaining 67 percent more than happy for it to occur whenever as long as their sexual partner is still up for continuing the session for a bit longer so everyone's satisfied.

Then, obviously, it got down to the nitty gritty.

Because 5 minutes simply isn't enough (Getty Stock Images)

Suitable dirty talk

How dirty is dirty? Well, let's still make sure everyone's being respected and not objectified in any sort of grotesque way, hey?

Don't just let any old words fumble out of your mouth; 53 percent of women saying men shouldn't go too far with sex talk to the point it's just a bit grim, and 74 percent saying it can be effective going for simplicity rather than anything too x-rated or elaborate.

So how about a 'You're so sexy' and leave it at that?

Next up, one many seem to unfortunately forget...

Foreplay

Many women can't orgasm from penetration alone, so why does any man still skip out foreplay? Well, if you still do that, you're condemning yourself to failure, my friend.

A staggering 86 percent of participants noted how valuable foreplay is when it comes to assessing whether a man is good in bed, with 90 percent saying this can be as simply as a good old snog or kissing body parts - not even the next level, which is next up on the list.

Dirty talk shouldn't just be plain old dirty or throwaway comments (Getty Stock Images)

Cunnilingus

To those of you who don't typically use the term, cunnilingus means oral sex performed on a vagina.

If you're not willing to go down on a woman as a man, well, 82 percent of participants deem you not as good in bed.

If you expect us to, then don't be a hypocrite. Enough said, really.

Orgasm awareness

A whopping number of 73 percent of women said they think it's important a guy wants and seeks to navigate how to edge an orgasm out of them.

However, on the other hand, 89 percent also noted it's equally as important a guy acknowledges when it's just not on the cards for that session and knows when to admit defeat rather than getting too into it - vaginas may not be flowers, but they are sensitive all the same, and there is something as 'too much'.

Everyone has their own kinks and thresholds; read the signs and just ask if you're not sure.

There is such a thing as 'too much' (Getty Stock Images)

Not being afraid to get a bit rough

Stressing that this has to be with consent and discussion beforehand and checking in during and after too, 75 percent of those surveyed reported wanting their male sexual partner to be less afraid with being a bit rough.

However, in the same breath, let's not forget about aftercare and the importance of cuddling - if you're into that.

Aftercare

You may have gotten rough and even uttered some dirty talk too, but that doesn't mean some of us don't love a good old cuddle once in a while too.

Post-sex cuddling can be just as important as the event itself (Getty Stock Images)

Keeping your ears and eyes open

Most importantly, it's to keep communication flowing - having sexual relations with someone can be a fun, beautiful, exciting experience, however, it can also be uncomfortable, daunting, and scary.

It's no surprise 84 percent of women said they considered a guy good at sex if he was good at listening to feedback - so whether verbal or non-verbal, pay attention, and if you have any doubts, just ask to make sure the experience is as enjoyable as it can be for both of you.