Expert reveals the 'yellow flags' when dating that are a major sign to slow down
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Callum Jones
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Topics: Sex and Relationships
We've all heard of red and green flags when it comes to dating, but what about 'yellow flags'?
Typically, we associate good things with partners who demonstrate green flag behaviors such as kindness.
A red flag is the complete opposite however, typically leading to your best pal telling you to get out of the relationship ASAP.
And it's the friends and family in our lives that often indicate these flags to us as it can be sometimes difficult to judge yourself while in the middle of a relationship.
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Todd Baratz, a therapist and author, has been speaking to the New York Times about yellow flags, the meaning of which is a little harder to understand.
The expert told the outlet that while a yellow flag is 'not a 9-1-1 alert', we should remain cautious.
Essentially, you are going to want to communicate with your other half about your concern.
Psychotherapist Stephanie Manes told the New York Times a date that says every ex has 'been a horrible, borderline-crazy person' is an obvious one.
Of course, someone may have just been a bit down on their luck and just generally ever only gone out with 'horrible' and 'crazy' people.
However, Manes stated it could also mean your date fails to take responsibility in past relationships breaking down.
Another supposed yellow flag according to experts is if your date is inconsistent.
Suddenly, they can be texting you non-stop and then they vanish.
I mean, it's not as bad as your date blanking you completely, but why seem so keen to then just suddenly stop?
Of course, your head can run in overdrive in this moment, leaving you insecure and not knowing where you stand.
Rather than trying to fill the blanks in yourself, one relationship expert revealed one text you can send to help clear everything up.
"Hey, I feel anxious when I don’t know when I’m going to hear from you. Can you give me realistic expectations of when you’re able to text me?" it reads.
Of course, people have busy lives so it may not be possible to text them during work hours.
If this has been communicated, then we could potentially reach green flag status.
All in all though, it's about communication.
Most experts say that if you can get it sorted then the yellow flag should turn into a green one in no time.